If you hate something or someone, don’t just blindly listen to your hate. Spend some time reflecting (when you can) on what it is you hate, and sifting out the layers of why.
This is a continuous process of self improvement, don’t despair when the layers are too tangled to sift.
We often find that the flower of hatred was masking other leaves of distaste, their stems grown from past pains, and their roots in the untended desire to be loved.
That more often than not, our cores are a double helix of the want to be loved, and the want to love freely.